im not too crazy about meeting a friend's significant other. it always turn out to be a bit of an ordeal because im expected to relentlessly analyse and deconstruct and perform complex body-language-decoding brain functions while friend's eyes constantly beseech me for approval.

now, lets put yourself in that person's (significant other) shoes : you see,  usually you will know when a group of friends are really curious about you, you would sense their collective anticipation and you would react to this with laughter that grows more defiant or maybe loud greets with much forced gaiety which i think are completely unnecessary unless you dont mind trying too hard to be a loon.

of course they will judge you - are you ordinary looking? do you have anxious expression? weird accent? of course they will make mental tally in their heads, so they can elaborate on their other friends later. and yes, you will wonder if you're steadily losing points. which got me thinking - its probably completely worth it just to be the object of the kind of devotion someone seems to have around you, just to be taken care of, when all the boys we know are fucking around, contemplating their wedding days or making statements like ' i need to figure things out' or ' i think i still have feeling for you but...' and etc.

ya know?